Using someone’s correct pronouns is an easy way to show respect. But I also know that mistakes happen, and that’s okay! If you’re feeling nervous about getting it right, I promise there’s no need to stress. This post is here to give you a little guidance on my pronouns, how to navigate mistakes, and what to expect during our session.


they/them: it’s okay if you’re still getting used to it!


My pronouns are they/them, and I totally understand that this might be new for some people. Language is deeply ingrained, and shifting how we speak takes time! I don’t expect perfection—just a good-faith effort. If you’re unsure how to use “they” for one person, think of how you’d naturally say:


  • “Someone left their phone here.”
  • “I think they went outside.”


It’s more familiar than it might seem! But if you slip up, don’t worry.


mistakes happen—no need to apologize!


If you accidentally use the wrong pronouns, I’m not offended. Things happen! I’ll correct you if I feel like it’s important, but honestly, I usually just move on. If you notice you’ve misgendered me, the best thing to do is a quick correction and keep going—no need for a big apology or explanation.


For example:


🚫 "Oh my god, I’m so sorry, I feel awful! I should know better!" (No need!)

🚫 "I'm sorry! It's just so hard to remember because you look like a woman!" (Please don't!)

✅ *Say nothing.* (Great!)

✅ "She—sorry, they look great!" (Perfect!)


Long apologies make me more uncomfortable than the mistake itself. I’d rather keep the focus on having a great session together!


correcting others (only if you want to)


My pronouns and gender identity aren't things that typically come up during client sessions. Especially not if there are a bunch of people there! If someone else misgenders me, you’re welcome to correct them, but please don’t feel obligated. I understand that most people assume my pronouns are she/her based on how I present and it’s not something I take personally. And if I feel like it’s necessary—which I probably won't—I’ll correct them myself.


No one should feel bad for making an honest mistake, especially if they didn’t know! A gentle correction is great, but no one needs to feel embarrassed or overthink it.


avoiding gendered language (but no pressure!)


I really appreciate when people try to avoid unnecessarily gendered language, but I also know it takes time and practice. Even I catch myself slipping up! If I’d prefer you to use a different term when referring to me, I’ll let you know in the moment.


For example:

🚫 "Hey girl!"

✅ "Hey buddie!" (or just "Hey!")


Small shifts like this go a long way, but again—it’s a process. If you’re putting in the effort, that means a lot to me.


final thoughts: don’t overthink it!


At the end of the day, my goal is for us to have a fun, comfortable session together. My pronouns are they/them, and I deeply appreciate when people try to use them correctly—but if you’re not used to it, it’s okay! Mistakes aren’t a big deal and you don’t need to feel anxious or overthink your words. What matters most is that we’re kind, respectful, and focused on capturing great moments together.


Thanks for taking the time to read this. I appreciate you!